Please read on at your own discretion. Anal is the most intimate sex we have as gay men, yet most of us rarely ever talk about it. So here's my attempt to crack open a discussion.
They can be a top — someone who prefers to act as the penetrative partner during anal sex; be versatile — one who is happy to both give and receive; and a bottom — someone who enjoys acting as the receiving partner. There are also subcategories, including vers-top and vers-bottom, but for simplicity, I will focus on the most commonly used positions. As someone who has been both a top and a bottom, I feel that bottoms are totally underappreciated by the gay community — both in terms of the expectations placed on them and the disregard for their effort, comfort and enjoyment.
Let's talk about gay sex — because even inmisconceptions are seemingly inescapable. Maybe that's because sex between men or women, for that matter is still all but absent from mainstream media. In fact, the Elton John biopic "Rocketman," released in May, is reportedly the first big-budget studio film with a sex scene between two men.
I'm a year-old male student and I'm gay. I came out fairly recently and I'm feeling optimistic about my love life. I've received a decent amount of sexual interest from other gay men and would like to have a relationship. But I'm terrified of bottoms.
In human sexualitytopbottomand versatile are sex positions during sexual activityespecially between two men. A top is usually a person who penetratesa bottom is usually one who receives penetration, and a versatile engages in both activities or is open to engaging in either activity. These terms may be elements of self-identity that indicate an individual's usual preference, but might also describe broader sexual identities.
Do you like getting jackhammered till your hole is raw? We heard you loud and clear: Our community survey got hot and heavy last month with a variety of responses to our questions about pain and anal sex. First, a few words about the survey.
Ever wanted to know the secrets to becoming a power bottom? Want to know how to look after the bottoms in your life? Curious to give it a try but not sure how to begin?
Sex may be something that nearly everyone does, but the way each person prepares for it is not necessarily the same. When it comes to anal sex particularly, the type of preparation can be even more specific and can vary by the role of the person participating. Some people use cleansers, supplements, or nothing at all. Whether a top, bottom, or vers, or whether male or female, the difference in pre-sex ritual or lack of one can be quite distinct — and can have health implications.
He explained that sides enjoy practically every sexual practice aside from anal penetration and choose to be sexually peripheral, so to speak, rather than on the top or the bottom. Well, kinda. Gay people are part of that mix.