My husband and I spend a fair amount of time, usually more than one day each week, helping my elderly parents in various ways. One of the first things that people observe when they visit someone in the hospital is the incredible amount of noise. Doors, hallway carts, people, voices, gurneys, and monitor alarms — noise that goes on all day long and around the clock.
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The following should not be considered legal advice. A lways seek the council of an attorney to help with your particular situation. If you have aging parents, you may have wondered who will pay their bills if they are no longer able to.
Wertzberger, 95, is in assisted living at Granite Farms Estates. The Joneses are great-grandparents. Expectations are altered amid the new reality of longer life expectancy and growing numbers of aged Americans.
As your parents age, you will likely experience a subtle yet significant change in the dynamics of your family and relationship. Stepping into the role of caregiver for your senior loved one may not be what you had envisioned when you were younger, however, for many adult children, this shift in the parent-child relationship is part of their reality. The role of a caregiver can look very different depending on the needs of your loved one, but acting as an advocate is often a primary responsibility.
As family members age, adult senior children are often put in the position of caring for an elderly parent. Watching parents age can be one of the most difficult stages in life. As their health slowly begins to deteriorate, the realization that they are approaching the end of their life journey can become overwhelming.
Several years ago, I wrote a book aimed at helping adult children of my generation manage the many challenges of caring for our aging parents. I interviewed women and men across the country about their struggles and successes. I also spoke with members of the helping professions: geriatricians, social workers, elder-law attorneys, administrators of assisted-living facilities, and just about anyone and everyone who I thought could shed light on the subject.
Relationships can be strained and even broken as the elderly and their adult children negotiate the inevitable reversal of roles and as very difficult decisions are made. Each of us wants to be free to make the decisions we want, even if they might sometimes seem self-endangering. The debate in the US over helmet laws for motorcyclists is an example.