By: Walter Watzpatzkowski. You might also blame many things on circumstances, which you see as always unfair. Bad things can happen in life.
The belief that sexual abuse is uniquely traumatising is damaging to victims. So Stephen Fry is the latest target of Twitter fury. Recently, Fry gave American internet talk-show host Dave Rubin a minute interview in which he discussed the threats to free thinking and Enlightenment values today.
I speak from the depths of my heart to each one of you who have been scarred by the ugly sin of abuse, whether you are a member or nonmember of the Church. I would prefer a private setting to discuss this sensitive subject and ask that the Holy Spirit help us both that you may receive the relief of the Lord from the cruelty that has scarred your life. Unless healed by the Lord, mental, physical, or sexual abuse can cause you serious, enduring consequences.
At some point in life, we are all victimized. Whether as children, teenagers, or adults, we all suffer emotional, physical, or psychological abuse to varying degrees. Having a victim mentality goes far beyond the experience of being victimized.
What a neighborhood! As I was beginning work on this post about self-pity, I searched Google and found a list of quotes from GoodReads. Let me give a personal example.
You may feel like a victim. Other times you may be struggling to cope, or maybe don't have the skills to handle a situation. Outward expressions of self pity are often made in the hope of receiving helpadvice or just sympathy.
Victim mentality is an acquired personality trait in which a person tends to recognize or consider themselves as a victim of the negative actions of others, and to behave as if this were the case in the face of contrary evidence of such circumstances. Victim mentality depends on clear thought processes and attribution. In some cases, those with a victim mentality have in fact been the victim of wrongdoing by others or have otherwise suffered misfortune through no fault of their own.
I sat on a kitchen stool, shivering, while a tired, almost annoyed police officer haphazardly pressed the side button of his handheld radio perched atop his shoulder. Slightly intoxicated, complaining of chest, wrist, and inner thigh pain. Possible sexual assault.
Stephen Fry has been lambasted for his comments. This week much loved comedian and national treasure Stephen Fry has once again found himself at the center of a controversy, following comments made about the victims of childhood abuse. Just grow up.
There are a number of excellent books that are relevant to the service we offer here at SurvivorsUK. Reading can be a very safe and accessible way of getting information about what can be helpful in understanding and overcoming the effects of sexual assault. I have been pleasantly surprised. This is not patronising, is not full of irrelevant statistics and nor is it about wallowing in self pity and pain.