It seems that wherever you look these days, men are walking out on faithful wives, cheating on loyal girlfriends, deserting beautiful sons and daughters. And it's becoming more common. Some of these men - the adulterous husbands, cheating boyfriends, absent fathers - are irredeemable scum, overgrown adolescents incapable of placing anything above their own satisfaction.
Have you ever heard of "spouse poaching"? In today's hook-up, shack-up, non-committal dating world, it may unfortunately be becoming a kind of desperate, last-ditch strategy for some people who cannot find a partner to marry or who is worthy of marrying. Let's back up bit.
Promiscuity tends to be frowned upon by many societies, expecting most members to have committed, long-term relationships with single partners. Most societies have historically been more critical of women's promiscuity than of heterosexual men's. Among women, as well as men, inclination for sex outside committed relationships is correlated with a high libido but social and cultural factors have also been observed to influence sexual behavior and opinion.
Michael29, part-time IT manager, married for two-and-a-half years, with a month-old son. Justin45, lawyer, married for 12 years to his second wife, though they live apart - his wife lives with her sister. He has one child, now 21, from his first marriage. Russell43, marketing executive, married for 16 years, with three children.
In terms of May-December romances, there's been a longtime double standard when it comes to which half of the couple is "December": Women who date younger men encounter fascinated curiosity, judgment, and even a loaded nickname that rose to prominence in the early 's, while men in relationships with younger women are simply known as If you've ever felt a spark with a guy eight or more years your junior but hesitated to give things a try, you might have told yourself it'll never work. Or at least it doesn't have to be.
Not between the wives and me, though I would be interested to hear their side. No, this discussion should happen between wives and husbands, annually, the way we inspect the tire tread on the family car to avoid accidents. A few years ago, while living in London, I dated married men for companionship while I processed the grief of being newly divorced.
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Verified by Psychology Today. Apologies To Freud. Mate poaching is a robust phenomenon, and it's here to stay. When many single women see a moderately attractive male, they are more interested in him if they believe he is already in a relationship.
Men of all ages and marriage lengths responded. Some were married too young and are now single again in their 30s. Some had been cheated on by their wives and felt broken and jaded.